There is no such thing as sex addiction. You can’t be addicted to sex any more than you can be addicted to breathing or drinking water. Sex is a natural part of life and there is nothing wrong with it at all. Since there is nothing wrong with it, it’s not harmful to indulge in it. Since it’s not harmful to indulge, then even a higher than average interest in sex is not an addiction.
Some people might say that you are addicted to sex if sex gets in the way of your “normal life.” But what normal life doesn’t include sex? What these people really want to say is that you are letting your natural urge to have sex take up time that they want you to dedicate to things like working hard for some corporation to enrich the stock holders. That doesn’t sounds as flashy as “sex addiction” though.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fifth Edition (DSM-5) is considered the main reference material of mental health experts. You can scour the pages of the DSM-5 from one end to the other. You will find out about a whole range of mental disorders. But you will not find “sex addiction.” Because there is no such thing.
A story of good and bad
Let me tell you a little story. This is about a Filipina chick I knew who worked as a housekeeper and maid for a rich white family living in another part of Asia. She had to clean the house and cook breakfast and dinner. Then after she was done with her daily routines she would usually cook for herself.
They didn’t pay her much money so she would go to the local market and buy food. Then she would cook it after everyone ate. But there was a problem. She loved seafood. But they family she worked for didn’t.
Since these people didn’t like seafood they thought it “stunk” whenever the housekeeper cooked the stuff. For them seafood stinks. So a house that smells like cooked seafood smells bad. But for the person cooking it, who liked seafood, it smelled delicious and made her hungry.
But when the housekeeper made bacon or cinnamon rolls for the family the house also filled up with the smells of cooking. Though since the family liked bacon and cinnamon rolls they would never call that smell a stink. They would say the house smelled good. And they would get hungry.
Do you see where I am going with this? It all comes down to values.
Sex addiction is a myth
Have you ever heard of someone being addicted to cleaning up pollution? How about being addicted to reading or art? Do you read newspaper articles about all those poor souls out there who are addicted to building houses for the homeless?
No. And do you know why not? Because those things are deemed to be positive in our society. No one thinks helping the poor or studying is bad. So no one is deemed to be “dangerously addicted” to studying or helping the poor.
But sex on the other hand is still the ultimate taboo. Even as copious amounts of porn are thrown into our face in one form or another all day long, the simple fact is that sex is still deemed to be a sin on a cultural level. We all have an urge to eat, drink, sleep and yes have sex too. But for that last one we are hated. Some of us even hate ourselves!
That’s why we have slut shaming, illegal prostitution, strange prostitution laws, and the myth of sex addiction. It all comes down to a value judgement. And in the judgement of many, sex has no value.
So banks close the accounts of porn stars, prostitutes are arrested for giving handjobs, Only Fans considers purging porn to satiate the banks, fat ugly women protest strip clubs, preachers and fascists condemn “porn addiction” and poor little Joe Blow goes insane because his natural urges are condemned all around.
It doesn’t take a genius to see how this conflicts with our supposedly free and open society. Remember when they told you that you could be anything you want? And that you should pursue your dreams no matter what anyone says? Well what if you want to be a porn star and you dream of fucking hundreds of women from around the world like John Tron of Asian Sex Diary? See the contradiction?
You can do whatever you want. As long as it is socially acceptable. What a fucking joke. But in my case I got the last laugh. When I was 19 I looked around and realized it was all a bunch of bullshit. So I packed up, hit the road, and never looked back. Here I am traveling around, enjoying life and having all the sex I want. There is nothing bad about it. I am not hurting anyone and no one is hurting me. It’s all good clean fun and I am fully satisfied. If you don’t like it you can go fuck yourself. I’m on my sexpedition!